Q: What steps need to be taken once someone has died an expected death?
If someone dies and it was expected, there is no need to rush. You can take your time and spend a little while with the person after they have died. This can be an important moment for some families. It is important to keep the person as cool as possible especially if the plan is for them to remain at home for any time. Often a window will be opened as it is believed this helps the spirit leave.Step 1: Confirming the Death
The first official thing that needs to happen is verification of death. This means a trained person checks and confirms that the person has died. This can be done by:
A GP (doctor)
A hospital or hospice doctor
A trained nurse
A paramedic
This is a physical examination to make sure death has taken place. At the same time any medical devices such as a syringe driver may be removed. (There is a separate page about the verification process if you would like more details.)
Step 2: Caring for the Body
Once the death has been verified, the person can be looked after by:
Family members at home, or
A professional, like a funeral director or End of Life Doula.
You do not need to call a funeral director straight away. In fact, you don’t have to use one at all if you plan to care for the person at home. (There is a separate section about how to do this safely.) If you do want to use a funeral director, you can contact them once the death has been verified.
Step 3: Getting the Death Certificate
In the next few hours or days, a GP or doctor will write a Medical Certificate of Cause of Death (MCCD). This is needed to register the death. Before the certificate is given, the Medical Examiner’s Office will check the proposed cause of death. They will also speak to the family to explain everything. (There is a separate section with more details about this process.)
You must register a death within 5 days of being contacted by the Medical Examiner to confirm cause of death (8 days in Scotland). This is usually done by a close family member but can be done by someone present at the death, the owner of a care or nursing home, the person arranging the funeral or a hospital official.
What You Need:
The Medical Certificate of Cause of Death (from a doctor)
Some details about the person (full name, date of birth, address, NHS number if known)
Where to Go:
Visit the local Register Office in the area where the person died. You may need to make an appointment.
What You Get:
A death certificate
A green form (for burial or cremation)
You can also ask for extra copies of the death certificate (there is a fee for each one).
Q: How can the body be cared for at home after death?
When someone dies at home, you may want to care for their body yourself before a funeral director takes over. This gentle care is sometimes called “last offices”—a way to show love and respect. You don’t need special training, just time, calm, and kindness.Step-by-Step Guide
1. Take a Moment
After death, sit quietly with your loved one. You don’t need to rush. It’s okay to take your time.
2. Close the Eyes and Mouth
After a person dies, their eyes may stay open or only partly closed. This is quite normal, and it’s okay to gently try to close them. Use clean hands. You can gently place your fingertips on the person’s eyelids and softly hold them closed for a few seconds. If the eyes won’t stay shut, you can place a cool, damp cloth over them for a short time. This can help relax the muscles. Sometimes the eyes stay slightly open even after trying. This is natural and nothing to worry about. You can do the same with the mouth. If the mouth won’t stay closed, using a pillow behind the head and a rolled towel under the chin for support may help.
3. Wash the Body (Optional)
You can gently wash the body with warm water and soft cloths. This can be done by family or with help from a friend or Doula. Be respectful and cover the body with towels or sheets as you go. You can apply body cream or aromatherapy oils if you wish. Gentlemen may be given a wet or dry shave. Hair may be brushed and styled if desired.
4. Dress the Body
You may want to dress your loved one in clean clothes or something special. Choose whatever feels right for you and them.
5. Make the Room Peaceful
You might like to place flowers, play music, or light a candle. Keep the room cool. Open a window if you can.
Important to Know
It is legal to keep a body at home in the UK for a few days.
Keep the room cool and shaded to help preserve the body. If you plan to keep the body at home for any time, it is worth considering hiring a portable air conditioning unit to ensure a constant, cool temperature. You can still contact a funeral director at any point if you want help or change your mind.
Taking care of someone after they die can feel hard, but it is also a final act of love. Go gently, and ask for help if you need it.
Q: What does verification of death mean?
When someone dies, it’s not always clear right away. In some cases, especially if the death was sudden, it’s important to check carefully before anything else happens. This process is called verifying death—and it means looking for signs that life has truly stopped. Below is a guide to understanding what trained professionals look for when checking if someone has died.First Signs to Look For:
When someone has died, you may notice:
Very pale skin, especially on the face and lips
Relaxed facial muscles, which can cause the mouth to fall open and the eyes to stay open if they haven’t been closed
No movement or breathing
What Professionals Check
A trained person (like a nurse, doctor, or paramedic) will gently check for the following:
No pulse (heartbeat)
No sound of the heart using a stethoscope
No breathing movements
No breath sounds when listening to the chest
Pupils (the black part of the eye) are wide and don’t react to light
Looking at the Surroundings
If the death was unexpected, the person verifying it will also look around the room or area for anything that might explain what happened. This could include:
Signs of bleeding or injury
Vomit
Medication, alcohol, or drugs
A note or letter
Other Signs of Death:
No reaction to pain
Eyes not blinking when touched (no corneal reflex)
Cloudy eyes
Patches of discolouration on the back or sides of the body (called post-mortem staining)
Stiffness of the body (called rigor mortis), which usually starts about 3 hours after death
Body begins to cool, depending on the room temperature
Final Thoughts
The exact moment of death can be hard to pin down. That’s why it’s important for trained professionals to carry out a full and careful check. If you’re ever unsure or are with someone who might have died, call 999 and get medical help straight away.
Q: What physical changes does the body show before death?
As someone gets closer to death, their body begins to show signs that it is slowing down. These changes are normal and happen naturally. Understanding them can help loved ones feel more prepared and know what to expect.1. More Sleeping and Less Awake Time
People often sleep more and may become hard to wake. They may seem drowsy or confused at times. This is because their body is using less energy.
2. Eating and Drinking Less
As the body slows down, it no longer needs much food or drink. The person may stop eating completely. This is normal and not usually uncomfortable for them.
3. Cool Hands and Feet
Blood flow slows down, so hands, feet, or legs may feel cold or look pale or blue. A warm blanket can help, but it is not usually a sign of distress.
4. Changes in Breathing
Breathing may become slower, faster, or have long pauses. Towards the end, breathing might sound noisy or gurgly. This is caused by fluid in the throat and is usually not painful or distressing. Medicines can help if needed.
5. Changes in Skin Colour
Skin may look mottled (patchy) or slightly purple, especially on the arms and legs. This is a normal part of the dying process.
6. Less Control Over Bladder or Bowels
The person may lose control of their bladder or bowels. Carers can help manage this gently and with dignity.
7. Becoming Unresponsive
In the final hours or days, a person may not respond to voices or touch. Even if they don’t reply, they may still hear and feel your presence—so it’s helpful to speak gently and stay close.
Final Thoughts
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Q: What steps need to be taken in the event of a sudden or unexpected death?
If someone dies suddenly, it can feel very shocking and confusing. You may not know what to do next. This guide explains the main steps in simple English.1. Call for Help
If the death happens at home or somewhere else outside of a hospital:
Call 999 and ask for an ambulance and the police.
The ambulance crew will try to help and check if the person has died. The police will come to support you and help with the next steps.
2. The Body May Require a Post Mortem
If the death is sudden, unexpected, or unclear, the police will contact the coroner (an official who investigates deaths). The body may need to go to a specified funeral director pending the outcome of the coroner. The coroner may decide the body needs to go to hospital for a post-mortem to find out what happened.
3. The Coroner Investigates
The coroner looks at what caused the death. They may:
Ask for a post-mortem (medical check of the body).
Hold an inquest (a formal investigation) if needed.
You will be kept informed. This may take a few days or longer. Sometimes the coroner will decide further investigation is not required.
4. You Can Contact a Funeral Director
Once the coroner says the body can be released, you can contact a funeral director to take care of the person and help you plan the funeral. You can still spend time with the person at home before this, if you want to.
5. Register the Death
After the coroner has completed their part:
You will be told when and where you can register the death. This is usually done at a Register Office.
You’ll need this to get the death certificate and organise the funeral.
Who Can Help?
Your GP (if known to the person)
A funeral director
The police and coroner’s office
Bereavement support services
Sudden deaths are very hard, and it’s okay to ask for help. You’re not alone.
Q: How can I make the time of death more meaningful for someone I care for?
When someone close to you dies, you may feel lost or unsure what to do. But there are small, heartfelt things you can do to honour their life and bring meaning to those first moments.🕯️ 1. Be Present, If You Can
If you’re there when they die:
Sit quietly with them
Hold their hand or place a hand on their heart
Speak softly — even if they can’t respond, they may still hear you
Say things you want them to know (e.g. “Thank you”, “I love you”, “We’re here now”)
Silence is okay. Your presence matters.
🌸 2. Create a Peaceful Atmosphere
After death, you can:
Dim the lights
Light a candle or open a window for fresh air
Play soft music they liked
Place flowers nearby
Cover them with a soft blanket or shawl
These small acts can help the space feel calm and respectful.
🧡 3. Honour Their Body With Care
You can help wash or dress the person gently, especially in cultures or families where this is a tradition.
Use their favourite clothes, scent, or jewellery
Lay them out peacefully with care and dignity
Place a photo, flower, or object that mattered to them nearby
Some families prefer to keep their loved one at home for a little while before a funeral director is called — this is legally allowed and can give you time to say goodbye.
📖 4. Say a Few Words or a Prayer
You could:
Read a favourite poem, passage, or prayer
Share a memory
Sit in silence for a few moments with others
Light a candle and say their name out loud
This doesn’t need to be formal — a quiet ritual can be very powerful.
🤝 5. Invite Others to Share the Moment
You may want to:
Let close family or friends join (in person or by phone/video call)
Share a hug or a story
Sit together in silence
Grieving together can bring comfort and strength.
🌼 6. Take Something With You
You might take a small item as a keepsake:
A lock of hair
A pressed flower
A handwritten note or drawing placed in their hand
These small tokens can help carry their presence with you.
🫶 7. Care for Yourself, Too
This moment can be emotional and overwhelming. Afterward, take time to:
Rest
Eat and drink something
Reach out to someone you trust
Sit with your thoughts, feelings, or memories
You’ve done something loving. That matters.
🌟 In Summary
To bring meaning to the time of death, you can:
Be present and calm
Honour the space and body with dignity
Speak, read, or sit in silence
Involve others if you wish
Take a keepsake or light a candle
Care for your own heart, too
There’s no one “right” way. Trust your instinct. Doing something — however small — with love and intention is what makes it meaningful.
Q: What is Rigor Mortis?
Rigor mortis is a medical term that means the body becomes stiff after a person has died. It is a normal part of what happens to the body after death.When Does Rigor Mortis Start?
Rigor mortis usually begins about 2 to 3 hours after death.
It starts in the small muscles first—like those in the face, hands, and fingers. The whole body becomes stiff after around 6 to 12 hours. After about 24 to 48 hours, the body will begin to relax again as it continues to change after death.
What Does Rigor Mortis Look Like?
You might notice:
The jaw becomes stiff and hard to move
The arms and legs feel firm and cannot be bent easily
Hands may be curled or tightly clenched
The body may look like it’s holding a fixed position
This stiffness is not painful for the person who has died. It’s simply part of the natural process the body goes through.
Why Does It Happen?
After death, the body stops getting energy from oxygen. Without this energy, the muscles can’t stay relaxed, so they lock in place. This is what causes the stiffness.
Is It a Sign of Anything Bad?
No. Rigor mortis is completely normal. It happens to everyone and is one of the signs that can help professionals confirm that death has taken place.
What If I’m Caring for Someone at Home?
If your loved one has died at home and you choose to care for their body for a short time, it’s good to know that:
Rigor mortis may make dressing or moving the body more difficult after a few hours
If you want to wash or dress them, it’s best to do this soon after death, before the stiffness sets in
Funeral directors or an End of Life Doula can also help with this if you’re unsure
Q: What happens in the final minutes of life?
The final minutes of a person’s life can be peaceful, but they can also bring changes that may be unfamiliar or upsetting for loved ones. Knowing what to expect can help you feel more prepared and less anxious.1. Changes in Breathing
Breathing may slow down or become irregular. There might be long pauses between breaths. Sometimes breathing becomes noisy or sounds like gurgling—this is due to fluid in the throat. It usually doesn’t cause distress to the person, even if it sounds worrying.
2. Cool Skin and Colour Changes
The person’s hands, feet, and face may feel cool to touch. Their skin might look pale, blue, or blotchy. This is normal and shows that the body is slowing down.
3. Stillness and Unresponsiveness
In the final moments, the person will likely be very still and may not respond to voices or touch. Even if they seem unconscious, they may still be aware, so speaking softly and staying near can bring comfort.
4. Final Breath
Eventually, their breathing will stop. This may happen quietly and gently. Sometimes there is a final sigh or long breath before complete stillness.
5. Peaceful Appearance
After death, the body may relax. The person’s face often appears calm, and any signs of pain or tension usually fade.
Final Thoughts
The final moments of life are often quiet and natural. It can be comforting to hold the person’s hand, speak gently, or simply be present. You are not alone—nurses, doctors, or care staff can support you through this time.